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Catalyze, mobilize and ignite the light within!

Some people have gone dark inside.  They’ve lost their light, perhaps as a result of certain circumstances that have led them to emotions such as loneliness, resentment, humiliation and all sorts of unresolved issues.  Life has become one obstacle after another and that can be overwhelming.

After so long without a solution, people feel despair and hopelessness.  It’s time to take a stand for what is important to you.  Turn your life around by going inside and taking a look at what is really hurting and admitting that there is a problem.  (Catalyze) That’s always the first step.  That is half the battle right there.  Then it’s time to do an internal evaluation.  (Mobilize) Why are you hurting?  Is it because you put everybody else first and forget about your own needs and desires of the heart?  If that happens to be the situation, it is important to respect your needs and desires, and in return others will respect yours (without being narcissistic).  Remember that we teach others how to treat us.  If you treat yourself with love and tenderness, your partner will do the same.  You can treat yourself to a massage or a night out with that special someone.  I’ve found that just the simple act of taking my self out to a movie can turn my mood around.  Sometimes it’s the simple things that work the best.  If you treat yourself harshly or neglectfully, others will do the same.  You can be a person who plants healthy seeds for all those around you at the same time as improving the quality of your life.    (Ignite the light within)  Because when you do this you will see that it is contagious.  People notice when you’re good to yourself.  It shows in public what you do in your private life.  Don’t forget you are the most important person in your life.

Where there’s life, there’s hope.

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Defeating behaviors

So it’s spring and you are about to start cleaning out your closets and your shed, etc…  How about a spring cleaning for your thinking patterns…?

Did you know that negative thinking sets off a negative reality?  Talk to yourself, not with selfish arrogance, but with a quiet confidence.  Make a fresh start.  Use positive affirmations such as (I am good enough), I will make it.  I am a winner.  I am in the right place with the right person doing the right thing at the right time.  Don’t wake up in the morning and stay in bed rehashing all the disturbing things that happened at work and with your kids or in your relationships.  Stop telling yourselves that you’ve got too many weaknesses.  Stop playing that CD over and over again in your head.  When you do that, you set limits on your life.  Too many people are living in mediocrity because they are living repetitive negativity.  (I am not a good parent, I’m a failure, I don’t have what they have or what it takes to make it, I’m just not good enough, I can’t do this, he rejected me etc.)  There is something on the inside constantly telling them they can’t make it.  They see people progressing in business and they tell themselves that they’ll never have that, they are not smart enough, or they don’t have that talent.  You have to quit dwelling on what you don’t have.  It all begins with you, the person in the mirror.  Make a decision to turn it around.  Look at what it is that you want to change and remember that people believe what they tell themselves.  This problem started way back at childhood when a parent or teacher spoke negative words about them.  As children you didn’t know any better.  You let it take root and grow.  Now it is imprinted on the inside of you.  You need to be careful how you talk to your children.  You need to affirm them with self-esteem and confidence.  If you don’t tell your children who they are, you can be certain that someone else will.  Tell them that they are worthy and you respect their way of thinking.  First find out what their thinking is?  Plant seeds of prosperity in your children.  Enter into their world and see what it looks like…  Teach them what healthy values are and how to make wise choices like respect, honesty, love and compassion etc.  Please remember they don’t necessarily do what we say, they do what we do.  Children need structure and balance.  Be sure of what it is that you want them to learn from you.  You need to tell yourselves that you have a purpose on this earth and life has a great plan for you.  You are progressing in all that you do.  No one else can do this for you.  You do have all that it takes to be happy.  Read positive affirmation books such as Louise Hay’s «I can do it» or Melody Beatty’s «The language of letting go»

Where there’s life, there’s hope.